tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3892857592788649371.post5406519818250002963..comments2021-09-04T09:34:11.521-07:00Comments on Signs and Shadows: When is friendship simply a word for abuse?CatholicGuyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09129339825000536287noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3892857592788649371.post-22608314736451108612012-02-29T13:27:28.783-08:002012-02-29T13:27:28.783-08:00Ending on a better note.
http://www.youtube.com/w...Ending on a better note.<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GnQ7bDGhOLIbugsbycarlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00193498016511498262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3892857592788649371.post-76738374962020251802012-02-28T10:52:59.970-08:002012-02-28T10:52:59.970-08:00I've read these comments. I'm posting so y...I've read these comments. I'm posting so you know I've digested them. If you could leave them up for a little while, I would appreciate it.<br /><br />Other than this little blurb of acknowledgement, I'll leave your comments as the last word.bugsbycarlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00193498016511498262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3892857592788649371.post-65623491032304689262012-02-28T09:27:21.202-08:002012-02-28T09:27:21.202-08:00" I don't feel right switching it to emai..." I don't feel right switching it to email, because it's part of this blog discussion."<br /><br />While it is motivated by your behavior I was attempting to keep it anonymous. That you seem to want to hash this out in public only makes that harder.<br /><br />There is a fundamental difference between the conflict of ideas and the personally insulting tone you have taken these past years. <br /><br />"They might disagree with me, but they can box that disagreement for a moment to regard me as a person with good judgement and good morals. You can't do that to me anymore. Why not?"<br /><br />Because you do not. You have no regard for truth. The most recent exchanges have proven that to me. <br /><br />You have impugned my personal integrity multiple times without the slightest hint of evidence. You have applied numerous double standards, holding me to the highest standards of behavior that you don't hold yourself to.<br /><br />You have no regard for the truth. The most recent exchange about Mennonites on the Facebook discussion is just the latest illustration.<br /><br />In short, I can't trust you. And all you have done is be abusive. The others you discuss with you may box in the disagreement. Not with me. Your anger spills out over and over again. Your latest outburst against my parents on a public forum was just the latest of these childish antics.<br /><br />I don't trust you. You have no regard for the truth in little things, and you lash out against those who have strong convictions because you have none yourself, at least ones which you will defend publicly. I could respect a Muslim child, because they would stand up for their beliefs. You lash out in the most vitriolic language and then whine when countered.<br /><br />Friends don't do what you do. They uplift. They enlighten. They build up and seek correction in the spirit of charity.<br /><br />You do none of these things. I have kept my silence on these issues in the past out of the spirit of our friendship. No longer. When you misrepresent or outright lie, I'm going to call you on it now. If you are acting like a jerk, I'll call that out too.<br /><br />You have abused our friendship for long enough. The well is dry now. All you do is attack and demean. It doesn't take a Catholic view to see that.CatholicGuyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09129339825000536287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3892857592788649371.post-77773909573074623632012-02-28T08:19:18.769-08:002012-02-28T08:19:18.769-08:00(If there was a way to make this post private, I w...(If there was a way to make this post private, I would do that. I don't feel right switching it to email, because it's part of this blog discussion.)<br /><br />Has it even occurred to you that, but for the last few paragraphs, I could have written the same post word for word? Do you not see the mirror image?<br /><br />What about the long term cultural pattern? To me it must be the same as two friends, one of whom lived in a Slave state and one who lived in a Free state. It must be the same as a muslim child and a catholic child who went to school together in 70s Yugoslavia. We're carried helplessly by our cultural divide into regarding each other as unstable and abusive. I regard you the same as you regard me, and I feel the same pain for doing so. I wish I did not think you so.<br /><br />I don't tolerate your very strong form of catholicism any more than you tolerate my irreligiosity. I can tell you that, if you were not extremely religious, I probably wouldn't think of you as unstable or abusive. I can separate your personality from your perspective and where it has taken you. Before letting you cease being my friend, I must ask you to do the same.<br /><br />If one simply... ignores the most extreme form of catholic teaching... one doesn't see me as unstable. Irreligious people, religious people, sunday catholics, almost all see me as a reasonable and stable person. They might disagree with me, but they can box that disagreement for a moment to regard me as a person with good judgement and good morals. You can't do that to me anymore. Why not?bugsbycarlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00193498016511498262noreply@blogger.com